i have been thinking a lot about consequences, and how we try to predict what will happen as a result of our choices, but we can't. we make choices based on the information available to us at the time, but it is never complete knowledge and sometimes the ripple effect surprises us. maybe something unexpected results.
another way of putting it: God knows what is good for us better than we do--because we are only guessing. God knows our hearts and our stories. God knows what we were made for and not just what we think will make us happy.
and so this has very much changed the way i give advice to friends. how can i know? i thought i knew what was good for myself, but as marissa puts it: we don't know how to choose good things for ourselves. so when friends ask now, i try to look at the situation from every angle, and then my final answer is pray. this is sincerely not meant to be a cop out. rather, i think this is simply acknowledging that i am not God and that i'm only offering one tiny slice of perspective. my approach may be pragmatic, but it is not the word of God.
on a completely unrelated note, i thought this was fun:
and there is a reason christina aguilera is in the middle...